I originally wrote this blog back in August of 2006. A fellow blogger poised a question to any other bloggers who would dare to answer...
His question: "So I'm reading this Christian book about being a strong man and it talks about strength. But I see men who are 'spiritual' and they seem like wimps to me. I don't want to forfeit my manly hood... is this really what a woman want?"
AJ - Here's my two cents for what it's worth...
“Isn’t this what makes our hearts beat more quickly, our knees weak when we watch Daniel Day Lewis in The Last of the Mohicans, William Wallace in Braveheart, Aragorn in The Lord of the Rings, or Harrison Ford in nearly any of his movies? Isn’t that what we, as women, long to experience from our man, and from the men in our lives? To experience the strength of a man is to have him speak on our behalf. For when men abuse with words, we are pierced. Their strength has wounded us. When they are silent, we are starved. They have offered no strength; they have abandoned us. But when they speak with us, hear us, offer their words to us and on our behalf, something in our hearts is able to rest. We long for the protection masculine strength offers. To have them shield us from physical harm, yes. But also to have them shield us from emotional harm and spiritual attack.”
~from ‘Captivating’… by Stasi and John Eldridge
YES! YES! YES! AJ!
A man is supposed to be burly and wild…That’s okay – personally, I find it incredibly sexy!
However strength in a man is not just physical and I believe you are confusing the two.
A man is supposed to be strong – the warrior, the protector. But a man shows even more strength when he is able to practice self-discipline with his words and not be abusive. He is even stronger when he contains his strength and power without blowing it out physically on a woman or child. He is a protector. If he doesn’t channel his God-given strength in this way, he is weak. He is weak at heart if he feels the only way he can be a man is to exert his strength forcibly onto a woman. On the same token… a man that is passive or sits aside idly as women take charge is just as repulsive, in my opinion. To not use this gift of manhood to its fullest potential would be quite a shame.
He is even stronger and more attractive when he steps OUT of his element - his natural tendencies to be brash – and set aside his desires for those he loves… For a man-I think- desires the sensual touch of a woman-the nurturing aspect of a relationship that come some so easily for most women.
I believe women want to be chased… pursued… it’s the fairytale we’ve all dreamed of… We want a man who is strong enough to pursue and protect us and strong enough to not give in to the lie that if you show emotion, love, cry, embrace or are passionate that you are not a man…I think a man that CAN do this and maintain his burly nature, is the strongest of ALL men. A man that can feel comfortable in his natural manly state, yet understand a woman and the value she brings. A man that can recognize the balance between the sexes and fulfill his duties of the weighed balance scale without counterbalancing it... now that is strength.
A man or a woman can be great by themselves; however, the two together can unleash all types of power and passion on every level…physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Just my two cents, but remember, I'm insane! LOL!
Thursday August 31, 2006 - 12:33pm (CDT)
A man is supposed to be burly and wild…That’s okay – personally, I find it incredibly sexy!
However strength in a man is not just physical and I believe you are confusing the two.
A man is supposed to be strong – the warrior, the protector. But a man shows even more strength when he is able to practice self-discipline with his words and not be abusive. He is even stronger when he contains his strength and power without blowing it out physically on a woman or child. He is a protector. If he doesn’t channel his God-given strength in this way, he is weak. He is weak at heart if he feels the only way he can be a man is to exert his strength forcibly onto a woman. On the same token… a man that is passive or sits aside idly as women take charge is just as repulsive, in my opinion. To not use this gift of manhood to its fullest potential would be quite a shame.
He is even stronger and more attractive when he steps OUT of his element - his natural tendencies to be brash – and set aside his desires for those he loves… For a man-I think- desires the sensual touch of a woman-the nurturing aspect of a relationship that come some so easily for most women.
I believe women want to be chased… pursued… it’s the fairytale we’ve all dreamed of… We want a man who is strong enough to pursue and protect us and strong enough to not give in to the lie that if you show emotion, love, cry, embrace or are passionate that you are not a man…I think a man that CAN do this and maintain his burly nature, is the strongest of ALL men. A man that can feel comfortable in his natural manly state, yet understand a woman and the value she brings. A man that can recognize the balance between the sexes and fulfill his duties of the weighed balance scale without counterbalancing it... now that is strength.
A man or a woman can be great by themselves; however, the two together can unleash all types of power and passion on every level…physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Just my two cents, but remember, I'm insane! LOL!
Thursday August 31, 2006 - 12:33pm (CDT)
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